is it possible?
I’ve been comparing myself to others a lot recently and it’s really bringing me down. It’s hard to find a balance between looking to others for inspiration and not letting yourself feel inadequate. I have this desire to really find my true personal style. I want to look to others for inspiration, but not be a direct reflection of that inspiration. How do we really find our true personal style? We are all unique, so there must be a way to share our uniqueness when it comes to style without it being filtered by what we think we should look like. I always get super excited when trying out new styles, becoming so immersed in those styles, and then finding that everything is a copy of a copy of a copy, and it becomes boring. Social media overwhelms us with all the possibilities and all the similarities, and it starts to feel like we don’t even know who we are anymore; we are all just copying each other in a way. And that’s when comparison kicks in. I want to move away from that, because it really makes me unhappy. I want to find a way to be inspired, but to still be me and not feel like someone else is doing it better. I want to feel like I have something to offer, but that is one of my biggest insecurities in all parts of my life.
I guess my mind was brought to this dilemma recently when re-watching Six Feet Under. If you are familiar, one of the main characters Claire, is in art school and her teacher is trying to explain to them that the art they are making is just a copy of their favourite artist and the reason it’s a copy is because they dislike themselves or they do not value themselves…and it got me thinking about how personal style is just the same. So how do we really dig deep into ourselves and figure out what is us, without our greatest inspiration constantly existing in the back of our minds? I don’t have an answer to this question, it’s something I am thinking a lot about lately as I try to navigate my way through feeling less like I don’t measure up and feeling like my most authentic (ugh, that word is so overused now lol) self.
Please share your thoughts in the comments below. I’d love to delve into this, get your opinions and thoughts. How do we become our most authentic selves when it comes to style and other aspects of our lives?